Sunday, September 15, 2013
Take Charge of Your Emotions by Dr. Linda J. Solie
Take Charge of Your Emotions: Seven Steps to Overcoming Depression, Anxiety, and Anger by Dr. Linda J. Solie, Bethany House (a division of Baker Publishing Group), $14.99 list price, paperback.
From the publisher:
Do you sometimes have emotions you can't explain or don't want?
You are not alone--and there is help. Whether you are challenged with significant bouts of depression or anxiety, periods of longstanding emotional pain, frequent temper flare-ups, or only an occasional unwelcome mood, Take Charge of Your Emotions is relevant to your life.
Psychologist Linda Solie guides you through seven steps to dealing with negative or destructive feelings. You will learn and practice time-tested skills that offer relief from painful emotions, including how to
· Identify exactly what you are feeling
· Understand the connection between your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors
· Choose new ways to think that produce emotional and behavioral change
No matter where you are emotionally or what you are dealing with, you can change the way you feel and behave. With nearly thirty years of hands-on cognitive/behavioral experience, Dr. Solie provides tools designed to help you find freedom and joy.
This is a self-help book offering a seven-step program for dealing with feelings of depression, anxiety and anger. The first of the seven steps is to describe the situation, followed by steps to identify unhelpful vs. helpful self-talk to gain control over the negative emotions.
The suggestion for replacing negative or unhelpful self-talk with helpful self-talk is good since what we think and say to ourselves drives what we feel and how we react to circumstances. I also appreciated the biblical foundation from which the author presents the solutions to dealing with negative emotions as revealed in the chapters entitled Building a Solid Foundation and Respecting Hazard Warnings.
The author encourages the repetitive use of the phrases "which is a problem because" (WIAPB) and "which is important because" (WIIB) in working through the steps but I found this repetition more tedious than helpful.
Overall I think this book is a good place to start for the day-to-day circumstances and negative emotions most of us deal with. However, a person overwhelmed by difficult situations, depression, anxiety, or anger is likely to also be overwhelmed by needing to read a book that is somewhat complicated, understand the lingo, and work through the steps. It's not a quick fix and shouldn't be considered a substitute for professional medical or psychological counseling for deeper issues.